Posted by: Ofer Aronskind | May 21, 2010

Art of parenting

I’m convinced that I have nothing to do with the way my kids turned out. I have three boys (a set of twins in there as well) and they couldn’t be more different from each other. I’d like to believe I’ve given all three the same level of support, love and affection and opportunities in their young lives. And yet their personalities, their outlooks, their interests and academic and athletic abilities could not be more dissimilar. I love them all the same and the only thing I see running through them is a certain level of independence. I’m convinced the less I do for them — the more I do for them.

I can just about say that I’ve never helped them with their homework. I do NOT clean their rooms and just recently they have begun doing their own laundry. If they do not study for a test, I let it go. Let the chips fall where they may. If one of them doesn’t do his homework–his problem, not mine. I do not give my opinion on matters unless I am asked, and I encourage them to make just about ALL decisions affecting their lives on their own.

I may not create world class athletes or Albert Einsteins. But then again, that’s not my goal. I strive for two things with my boys — I hope they will be happy and I aim for each of them to be independent and to function on their own out in the world. I think they’re well on their way.

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