Posted by: Ofer Aronskind | November 2, 2010

Title – Moving with Kids – A Guide

This guest post was written by Sari Holtz,

Sari is a mother of four, and the voice behind Billy’s Blog, part of Billy.com, an online savings club that provides exclusive discounts on everything from interstate movers to milk.

Moving with Children – What Every Parent Should Know

Moving is always stressful, and when moving with kids is even more nerve-wracking, as it requires additional coordination, emotional preparation and bathroom breaks. You probably know that children are resilient and that in time, they’ll surely adjust to their new environment. Still, a bit of advance planning can help your children settle in more quickly, which will make the process easier for you as well. While you should be aware that tantrums, misbehaving and possibly even developmental regression (renewed bedwetting, thumb sucking, etc.) are normal during times of dramatic change, your own approach to the move can help your child survive without too much trauma or fanfare.

Although you may be preoccupied with the details or too busy to address the concerns of your children, studies show that tackling the issues head-on will greatly improve your chances of having a successful move with children. In fact, taking extra time to help your child deal with the change can not only help him survive, but can empower him to thrive in his new environment. Whether your move is next week or next year, here are some practical ways in which you can prepare your child for the big change.

1- Give your children advance notice. You may feel compelled to divulge the details of your move at the last minute so that your children don’t get nervous or anxious too far in advance. But in reality, giving them enough time to understand the impending changes is the best way to ensure that they’ll be as comfortable as possible with the move.

2- Explain the motivating factors behind the move. There’s no question that you’re moving for a reason – whether it’s to a larger space, to save money, to pursue a new job or to be closer to family. Explaining your motives to your children (even young children), can help them understand (on some level) why moving will ultimately be to their advantage.

3- Describe the benefits of your new home. Young children get excited by things much more easily than adults do. They’ll be interested in hearing that it snows frequently in their new city, or that their new town has a beach nearby. Your children may be happy to hear that they’re getting bigger rooms, or their own rooms. Don’t hesitate to exaggerate the benefits of the move slightly so that your children will feel the excitement.

4- Spoil your children. Children love being the center of attention, and showering them with extra love during the moving process can really help. Throw a goodbye party, take your children out to dinner during the move, and buy your children extra things for your new home like new bedding or toys. You can roll the expense of spoiling your children into the cost of the move, and they’ll feel much more relaxed during the transition.

5- Plan a visit back to your home town. While goodbyes are never easy, they are always easier when you know that you’ll be returning soon. If possible, plan a trip back to your point of origin so that your children have something to look forward to. Even if the trip isn’t for months down the road, they’ll feel stronger knowing that it’s coming, and they’ll be excited to compile stories to share upon their return.

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