Posted by: Ofer Aronskind | November 24, 2010

Worrying About Becoming A Dad

This is a guest post by Simon Barnett

Simon Barnett is a proud father and enjoys writing about all aspects of parenthood. He also contributes to Offer UK online, helping other parents to save money by using voucher codes.

Hearing that you are about to become a father for the first time is a wonderful moment. The thought of bringing new life into the world can be awe-inspiring.

Yet, it’s also natural to feel a sense of trepidation. In fact, you may feel more than a little concerned!

This is perfectly natural, although it’s a feeling that is sometimes overlooked by others. There are plenty of books and guides aimed at helping mothers-to-be through pregnancy, but what about us men?

These can be daunting times for us too. We may well be worried about what the future holds.

These concerns can take many forms, but let’s look more closely at some of the most significant worries that many men have. Hopefully, by the time you’ve read through a few of these, you’ll realise that you have many, many reasons to feel positive about the future.

Will you be a good father?

This may be your greatest concern of all. You may wonder about the type of father that you will become. Will you set a good example? How about the practicalities of dealing with a small baby?

The reality is that thousands of men become dads for the first time each day. Some have plenty of experience of dealing with small children. Others have practically none. It doesn’t really matter how much previous experience you have because you’re about to discover that all children are different.

That means that you’ll be learning on the job. The great news is that you’ll be in exactly the same position as every other guy in the world who’s dealing with a first baby!

Although you may worry about the type of example that you’ll set, it’s worth remembering that you’re a unique individual. That means that you have plenty to offer this baby. You may not realise this right now, but you’re going to be in a great position to pass on your skills and experience.

What about money?

Are you worried about how you’re going to afford to feed this extra little person? Once again, you may be relieved to hear that you’re not alone in having such a concern. Most parents wonder about how they will possibly manage to afford everything that they’ll need.

But you’ll get by. You just will! It sounds mad, but having a baby makes you far more aware of the important things in life. Products and services that you currently view as being essential will soon be seen as luxuries.

You’ll also start to see how generous other people are. That’s because others know how difficult the early months can be. As a result, you’re likely to find that there’s no shortage of second-hand baby clothes, toys and equipment!

Don’t allow financial concerns to spoil this wonderful moment in life.

Life with your partner

Your relationship with your partner is about to change considerably and this can seem daunting. But it’s only a bad thing if you allow it to cause a problem.

Instead, be aware that this baby can change your relationship for the better. It may seem hard to believe that a great relationship can become any stronger, but be prepared to be surprised!

The two of you are about to share so many eye-opening, astounding, memorable times. You’re about to set off on a great adventure!

There’s no harm in admitting that you feel a little scared. You wouldn’t be human if you didn’t. But the road ahead is going to be exciting and new. It’ll be like nothing else that you have previously experienced.

Be there every step of the way. Provide your partner with as much support as you possibly can. Work as a team and you’ll succeed.

Look forward to the future and have a lot of fun.


  1. Hi Simon

    Well said!

    For years we put off the thought of children because ‘we couldn’t afford it’. The fact is, now they are here…just can’t afford to be without them!

    Nothing else matters…simple!

    best regards

    Wayne Evans

  2. I love being a father, i love my children, and being a father you will sacrifice everything for your family.

    • Thank you for your comment.
      I fully agree with you.

  3. Thanks for the insight. It’s nice to see these issues from a father’s perspective.

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