Posted by: Ofer Aronskind | February 9, 2011

Parenting in the Sandwich Generation

This is a guest post by Jan Heinen

Jan Heinen is a chiropractor from Surrey, British Columbia that specializes in limited mobility. Visit her website to read about Pride Mobility lift chairs and other limited mobility solutions.

As the years go by, life gets more and more hectic. Sure, every generation says so, but it is true. With the Internet and 24-hour news cycle, this mantra applies to not only every family, but to the whole world. There’s practically no such thing anymore as a stay-at-home parent; these days a majority of households have two income families. So there’s less time to tend to your kids’ needs or take care of your aging parents. None of us want to see anyone suffer from emotional distance from their family, so what are we to do? The solution isn’t a simple one.

Finding the Time

If you’re like me, you have kids that are starting to get more and more independent. While you no longer have to help them with every last thing, you do have to do your best to make sure they avoid any pitfalls. Though you never want to be your kids’ “best friend” (some may say their “enabler”) per se, you can find ways to stay involved with them and remain an authority figure.

• Try setting up a family night in which you cook together or watch a movie or TV show together

• Plan trips with your kids to places that cater to all of your tastes

• Let them know that your job is important and necessary, but not above your love for them

• Keep in mind that your kids are their own people with minds of their own that are capable of independent thought and reasoning

• Keep the channels of communication open

Some of this may sound platitudinous, of course, but every family is different. The best way to go about this, no matter who you are, is to start early. By establishing a chain of command (for lack of a better term) early on, you are setting up boundaries and molding your children into the best they can be and productive members of society overall.

The sandwich generation

 

If you’re like me, you have aging parents to consider as well. If your parents suffer from limited mobility, you probably have a tougher job than those folks whose parents still get around on their own. Though many senior citizens suffer from limited mobility, they still remain fiercely independent in their own ways. Just because they require lift chairs (I’ve found Pride Mobility lift chairs to be particularly invaluable, as an aside), it doesn’t mean that they need you to dote on them. In fact, many will get upset if you do.

The best thing you can do is make yourself available. While this situation may open itself up to abuse, by and large you will find that your aging parents merely appreciate the open offer. They’ve done their time in the workforce, so they will appreciate the limited time you can offer them even more and understand when you don’t have the time. Whatever you do, make sure you do make time – don’t ever take your aging parents for granted.

You can even apply the aforementioned tips concerning your children to your parents suffering from limited mobility. By simply keeping them a part of your life, you are uniting your family in very intrinsic ways. Though they may be set in their ways, you can find ways to incorporate them into family nights and other activities.

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  2. Really Good information to be a good dad in real life I like your advice I will apply this in my real life

    Thanks
    Dear


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